Faisal Khokhar 
DEAF is an involuntary Nerve Fracture (trauma) response to conflict or confrontation, leading to excessive behaviours such as Defending, Excusing, Attacking, or Fawning, driven by fears of rejection, loss of control, or shame. DEFEND: This reaction involves protecting oneself from perceived criticism or threats through defensiveness, over-explaining, or rationalising one’s actions. It is often seen … Read more
The problem has never been who you attract; the problem has always been with whom you engage. Read that again. When I used to coach women, their biggest complaint was, “I keep attracting men who mess me around. How do I stop attracting these players? And where are all the good men?” I encounter the … Read more
I felt pathetic and ashamed. The secrecy of my actions had a vice-like grip on my life, a burden I deeply despised. The wasted time, the fleeting thrill, the depleted energy – all these left me feeling awful. The regret of lying and cheating was overwhelming. Pornography became my escape, a refuge from rejection and … Read more
In the complex world of human emotions, the concept of ‘Emotional Fracture’ plays a critical role, especially in the lives of many men. This fracture, deeply rooted in fears of abandonment, rejection, and feelings of unworthiness, doesn’t just influence a man’s emotions; it dictates where he ‘lives’ emotionally. Let’s explore this intriguing concept further, understanding … Read more
With a look into the intricate dynamics of relationships, particularly focusing on a phenomenon we’ve termed the ‘Spoiled-Brat Behavior Reflex’. This reflex manifests as a series of reactive, often toxic patterns that can subtly yet significantly erode the foundation of a relationship. It’s crucial to recognize these patterns, not just in our partners, but also … Read more
Let’s talk about the not-so-pretty side of our psyche – trauma responses. These sneaky buggers dictate so much of what we do, from that knee-jerk reaction to lash out to the sudden urge to ghost everyone and binge Netflix. It’s not just about facing fears; it’s about recognising our weird brain’s wiring and learning to … Read more
Passive-Aggressiveness, a spectrum is a weapon used by many people. It appears in relationships, parenting, work, or business, especially if you are extremely fractured (check out 5fractures.com). 3 SIGNS OF PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE: Indirect Communication: Passive-aggressive behaviour often involves expressing negative feelings indirectly rather than openly discussing them. For example, someone might make sarcastic comments, give … Read more
01. DETACHMENT – Ultimate power is reserved for the man who is willing to walk away. Embrace a ‘take-it-or-leave-it’ attitude; you’ll unapologetically command your freedom. 02. MASCULINE-FRAME – The man who stands firm and composed in his frame calmly dictates and leads the rules of engagement. Hold your frame fearlessly; but flexible in your approach; … Read more