I’m at the beach with my 12-year-old son. Red flags cover the beach and I’m tempted to swim. “Don’t be silly dad, it’s dangerous.” Then my son spent a few minutes telling me that just because it’s sunny and seems reasonably calm, the biggest danger is what we cannot see immediately. He informed me that … Read more
I hopped on a free coaching call today with Faisal about Masculine Charisma and becoming a higher-value man. The reason for my doing this has been the fact that I’m fed-up with how I’ve comported myself for the last few years. I’ve had crippling low self-worth and social anxiety, plus fear of rejection and even, … Read more
What is a ‘Nice-Guy?’ “Nice-Guy” is a popular slang/term to describe a certain artchtype of a male. A nice guy is defined as someone who thinks they deserve to be in a relationship or have sex based solely on being nice. A ‘Nice-Guy’ is also a man with low self-esteem, inferior complex and dormant charisma … Read more
“What’s wrong honey? What’s wrong honey?” frantically repeated by every panicked nice-guy when she is upset, distant or moody. My journey to becoming a well-adjusted and charismatic man has many challenges. As one is overcome another emerges. “New level. New devil” as Faisal always says. In the last article, we looked at a general overview … Read more
I’m sat alone in a large bar in the west end of Glasgow with a beer in one hand. I’m checking the time again. My date is late and my mind is doing backflips. Did I get the wrong place? Did I get the wrong time? Maybe she changed her mind and stood me up? … Read more
In my men’s group (MCM), one of our older and wiser tribe’s men, Mr D asked “how can we play out even more? How can we unblock and go beyond what we already do?” I felt that Mr D wanted to bring further bonding and camaraderie amongst the tribe. Immediately I remembered and after a … Read more
Ever received an awkward look because you laughed at the wrong time, tried too hard to fit in or made a comment out of context because you didn’t read the situation well? That was me many years ago. I know what it’s like to be socially awkward in large groups or new people. Secretly I … Read more
She: “You are such a lovely guy. I don’t want to ruin what we have. Let’s stay friends.” Nice-guy: “Okay, you are right. I don’t want to ruin what we have. You mean a lot to me.” Masculine Man: “No thank you, I have plenty of friends.” The nice-guy relinquishes his masculine power and dignity … Read more
Our journey away from the nice guy and into a healthier, more masculine life is a long one. One of the many things that Faisal has taught me is that we achieve lasting change through repetition and habits. Little by little, we slowly edge towards this better life and before you know it we’re there … Read more
When it came to reconditioning myself away from the nice guy mentality, it took years, but it only took a moment for something to switch in my head. It’s what they call an epiphany: When a great truth or insight is revealed to you and your mind changes with that perspective. Like Jules (Samuel L … Read more