Two Types of Love: Hard Work vs. Working Hard

There are two types of relationships

1️⃣ A relationship that is hard work.
2️⃣ A relationship that works hard.

In the early stages of dating, it’s crucial to recognise the trajectory of what you’re about to create.

In the first type, we may find ourselves walking on eggshells, plagued by the constant fear of upsetting the other.

This can be intertwined with controlling behaviors, often stemming from ‘needy’ tendencies.

The foundations of such relationships are built on insecurities, making one constantly seek validation, turn into a people-pleaser, and dread rejection.

It’s a relationship that demands excessive emotional labour without promising stability or growth.

An insecure attachment.

On the other hand, a relationship that works hard is built from the get-go on mutual respect, trust, and genuine understanding.

A secure attachment.

Both partners contribute equally and with intention.

They set a course early on that prioritizes individuality, growth, and shared dreams.

Such a relationship’s trajectory is aimed at continuous growth, love and mutual fulfillment.

When entering the world of dating, it’s essential to be attuned to these early signs.

Knowing the trajectory helps in making informed choices for the kind of love story you wish to write.

After all, relationships should elevate us, not constantly deplete our energy.

It’s not just about finding someone to live with, but finding someone where you both co-create high-value connection and experiences.