You know charisma when you see it. You know it when you feel it.
And right now, charisma is something you wish you had more of.
A charismatic person sets themselves apart from the rest.
They get the job, the girl, and the attention that they want.
Give me 2 minutes and i’ll teach you 5 rules to be instantly charismatic.
❶ Magnetic First Impressions
A simple formula to boost charisma and make people feel important (PHU)
• Give eye contact 80% of the time
• Offer a specific compliment; opt for non-obvious
• Ask questions that evoke emotions
• Be interested, not interesting
• Don’t be in a rush to reply or hijack the conversation
• Remember name(s)
• Follow up quickly
• Recall something you discussed
❷ Pause Before Speaking
“When we feel powerful, we speak more slowly and take more time. We don’t rush. We’re not afraid to pause. We feel entitled to the time we’re using.” Amy Cuddy
This kind of charisma is based on a deep sense of self-confidence, security and a strong masculine frame.
It communicates to others that we are in control of our lives and our destiny.
This incredibly attractive quality naturally seduces people to their world (their frame).
❸ Unapologetic Body Language
Charismatic men have powerful body language that makes them stand out as they walk into a room. They carry themselves with poise and exude an air of confidence that is contagious.
When you are in their presence, you can’t help but be drawn to them.
Standing up straight, pulling your shoulders back, making eye contact, smiling, and giving a firm handshake are all critical nonverbal cues that convey charismatic confidence.
❹ Use Humor
People are attracted to those who make them feel good, and humour is a great way to do that.
Be playful and tease appropriately, calibrating as you go along. If you have anger, resentment and envy energy, your humour will come across as insincere.
❺ Don’t Be Nice To Please
If you’re always nice to please, you’ll never stand out, that’s why nice-guys feel often feel invisiable.
Charisma comes from being bold, confident and vulnerable, not from being a people-pleaser
So don’t be afraid to be a little bit edgy. It’ll make you more compelling and attractive to others, even if they don’t always agree with you.
Practising the courage to be disliked builds trust and admiration.