If you suffer from the “NICE-GUY-SYNDROME”, you are likely to suffer from some, if not all, of these common issues I encounter in my coaching practice.
Anger, resentment and anxiety are all too common in all NICE-GUYS.
They play down their rage.
Nice-guys spend a lot of time coming across as nice and pleasing so everyone will like them, therefore they are over flexible and accommodating at their own expense.
Eventually, years of harbouring resentment will eventually erupt as rage because they didn’t speak up in the moment, draw a boundary, or keep giving with nothing in return.
9 Hallmarks Of A Nice-Guy:
1️⃣ Anger / Resentment
2️⃣ Anxious / Impatient
3️⃣ Jealous / Controlling
5️⃣ Mood Swings
6️⃣ Binge Social/Eating
7️⃣ Easily Distracted
8️⃣ Weak In Relationships
9️⃣ Addictions (Porn, Masturbation, Drinking, Complaining…)
For every “nice-guy,” watch out for the “nice-girl” who will harbour similar traits.
She may not be addicted to porn, but she may be addicted to seeking external constant attention through connection, sex and or social media.
4 Ways To Overcome The Nice-Guy Traits
❶ Start saying no.
❷ Understand and meet your own needs.
❸ Be process-focused, not outcome-focused.
❹ Join a men’s group and get support from coaches/therapists
For a solid recovery, work with a coach or therapist who specialises in “nice-recovery” or you can contact me for your recovery journey or join my men’s group which focuses on helping men recover from the ‘nice-guy-syndrome.’