Men who constantly chase, think and dream of women and relationships become financially, emotionally, and time poor.
They are also quick to feel lonely in or out of a relationship because they are so dependent on the external feeding their happiness and self-worth, they fail to tap into their internal power.
Chasing isn’t the problem; we men are built to achieve; what you chase can throw a spanner in the works.
As I become more mature, I am starting to work out that some of the things I feel result from what I am focusing on.
Whatever you focus on, you amplify thanks to the RAS (Reticular Activating System), which is a bundle of nerves at our brainstem that filters out unnecessary or unfocused information.
Those who keep focusing on seeing problems tend to be more critical, impatient and frustrated with life.
If you keep seeing that women are the problem, then your confirmation bias will always guide you back to the fact that women are the problem, and that’s the only reason your dating life sucks.
Solution-focused individuals tend to be grateful, progressive and happier in life because they see things more in grey than black and white and have a realistic acceptance of reality.
Here is a list of what you chase you’ll become:
chase women > broke
chase attention > desperate
chase impulses > anxious
chase approval > needy
chase validation > lost
chase comfort > lazy
chase perfectionism > stagnant
chase expectations > wounded
chase money > rich
chase purpose > fulfilled
The moral of the story, focus on habits that’ll help you become the person you desire to be.