Are you a “nice guy” who always puts others before yourself, avoids conflict at all costs, and apologises excessively?
While these traits may seem admirable, they can actually hold you back from living a happy and fulfilling life, especially with women.
In this article, we will explore 10 habits that “nice guys” should break in order to prioritise their own needs, handle conflict in a healthy way, and achieve their goals.
By breaking these habits, you can become a more confident, assertive, and fulfilled individual.
- Saying yes to everything: While being agreeable and accommodating is a great trait at certain times, saying YES to everything and everyone can lead to burnout and resentment. Learn to say NO and set healthy boundaries. Attractive women find NO very attractive as men rarely tell them no.
- Avoiding conflict at all costs: Conflict is a natural part of life, and avoiding it can lead to pent-up frustration and resentment. Learn to handle conflict in a healthy and constructive way, and don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself.
- Putting others’ needs before your own: A very typical nice-guy habit. It’s great to be considerate and helpful, but not at the expense of your own needs and happiness. Make sure to take care of yourself and prioritise your own well-being.
- Apologising excessively: While apologising when you’re in the wrong is important, constantly apologising for every little thing can undermine your confidence and self-esteem. Learn to own your mistakes without feeling the need to over-apologise.
- Being overly accommodating: It’s great to be helpful, but being overly accommodating can lead to others taking advantage of you. Learn to set healthy boundaries and say NO when necessary. This is a big turn-off during dating and in relationships. Women want to know you have limits.
- Holding onto grudges: Holding onto anger and resentment towards others can weigh you down and negatively impact your relationships. Learn to let go of grudges and forgive others for their mistakes. I recommend an exercise called “Judgement F&ck” which you can message me for.
- Neglecting your own needs: Don’t put your own needs and desires on the back burner in order to please others. Make sure to take care of yourself and do things that make you happy.
- Seeking approval from others: While it’s natural to want to be liked and accepted, seeking approval from others at all costs can lead to a lack of authenticity and a loss of self. Learn to value your own opinion and trust yourself.
- Being overly self-critical: Nice-guys suffer from this greatley. While striving for self-improvement is important, being overly self-critical can lead to a lack of self-confidence and feelings of inadequacy. Learn to practice self-compassion and be kind to yourself.
- Putting off important tasks: Procrastination can lead to feelings of stress and overwhelm and can prevent you from achieving your goals. Learn to prioritise your tasks and tackle them head-on, even if they seem daunting at first.
Breaking these “nice guy” habits may not be easy at first, but with practice and self-awareness, you can make positive changes in your life.
Remember that prioritising your needs and setting healthy boundaries is not selfish but essential for your well-being and happiness.
By letting go of these old nice-guy habits and building new masculine habits, you can cultivate healthier relationships, achieve your goals, and live a more fulfilling life.
And when you have new high-value masculine habits, you’ll be seen by others as a high-value charismatic man.